About Me

Unsurprisingly to anyone who knows me, my initial vision for this blog quickly expanded to way too broad in scope. I am a very curious person who loves to learn everything about everything, so just like almost every other project I’ve attempted it quickly became too broad in a way that didn’t seem to fit nicely into any particular niche besides ‘extremely random topics from a chaotic Autistic/ADHD’r’. It became apparent that I needed to figure out a common theme in all my special interests and after taking some time off to work on this I realized one of my favorite aspects of this blog was the idea of creating neologisms for concepts that didn’t fit nicely into already existing terms or ideas. I love finding patterns and connections with things and creating detailed taxonomical systems to help me communicate. Although it isn’t universally adored to the level I enjoy it, I’ve found in talking to people that there definitely are other people out there who love that as well and it would bring me so much joy to be able to create a community where we work on this together. The problem I was facing before is that I am not a subject-matter expert on a lot of the topics that come up when I make these sort of connections and I do not want to portray myself as one. I want to invite feedback and collaboration with people who know more than I do. I envision this blog being a place where I share my process as well as neologisms I’ve created, and then we can build a community of folks who work on this together.

 

I hope to create a safe place for honesty and authenticity. I’d like to be upfront: I’m super biased. So are you, and so is everyone you know. It's time we all stopped pretending that isn't a thing. Addressing this gives me the freedom to discuss my special interests without the constant need to defend the ability to have opinions that will not always be the same as everyone else. I come from an environment where my views are extremely different from everyone else, so I am excited to create a space where I have the ability to discuss the things I like with people who also have similar interests and viewpoints. Of course, everyone is welcome, and seeing things from many different viewpoints is one of my fundamental values. But that value was created as a result of feeling like the odd one out in an extremely cisheteronormative, able-bodied, white christian world. As someone who navigates the complexities of turning against my family’s beliefs and the journey of self-discovery, I wanted a space where I can share openly and honestly, free from reservation, and so I am giving myself that space behind the cover of a pseudonym. The idea of public attention makes me want to throw up. This might seem weird for someone creating a blog but I just want to build a community around the mission of my blog without having to expose myself to the dangers and stress that come with being a public figure. I simply don’t have the social battery for that type of life. So be advised that I will not be shying away from my leftist, humanist, feminist, existential, (and I'll be real: pessimistic) world-view. You will learn that I am a product of an abusive childhood that was incredibly problematic in terms of basically every form of bigotry and hate. I navigate the world as a nonbinary, bisexual individual, often finding myself at the intersection of various identities and experiences. My life has consisted of navigating pretty significant mental and physical health challenges. This blog will often contain discourse relating to these factors. So as a "rainbow warrior" myself with a huge string of labels, I am still unlearning a lot of harmful things I grew up around that not only are just against what I currently believe but result in some very confusing internalized biphobia / transphobia / misogyny etc. I think this gives me I pretty unique perspective in this polarized world we live in. I know exactly what is wrong on both sides and as a neurodivergent person I find value in calling a spade a spade.

 

I believe in the power of cooperation and shared knowledge, so I want to share the tools and strategies that have helped me. I'm definitely not an expert or doctor, but as a lifelong rider of the struggle bus I’ve gathered a wealth of practical insights that I hope can help someone waste less time than I did.

 

A Blend of Serious and Sardonic

On this blog you can expect a mix of my attempt of serious academic analysis, philosophical bullshit, and hopefully a twist of dry, absurdist humor. My relationship with humor and sarcasm is complex due to my neurodiversity. While I may not always get conventional humor or sarcasm right away, I have my own style – one that's often misunderstood. So I felt it was probably best to address it up front since I’ve spent my whole life correcting social misunderstandings and trying to understand the nuances of these types of things. I love things like absurdist humor and stories of malicious compliance. I’m also not going to apologize for my explicit language, and if you think it brings down my work then you’re too pretentious for this community. Critical and philosophical thought doesn’t need to be some fancy thing kept up in ivory towers that only privileged people who speak certain ways can partake in.

 

I go by they/them pronouns. You will see that I tend to favor gender-inclusive language and I do not use person-first language when talking about my health conditions like my Autism. 

 

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WTF is ‘Gender-Inclusive Language' and 'Identity-First Language’?!

 

‘Gender-Inclusive Language'

‘Gender-inclusive language' is a communication approach that avoids gender-specific terms, trying to make it so that my language doesn't reinforce binary gender norms. The hope is to recognize and respects fellow nonbinary individuals and those with diverse gender identities. It also promotes inclusivity by using terms like "they/them" when unsure of someone's pronouns, using gender-neutral job titles, and avoiding gender stereotypes. There will be no tolerance here for debating if singular ‘they’ pronouns are acceptable or not because they are full-stop. If terms like ‘parent’, ‘spouse’, or ‘person’ trigger you or “go against your beliefs” then you’re in the wrong spot. Gender-inclusive language is a small step towards a more equitable and respectful environment for everyone, challenging the traditional binary view of the world, and supporting a broader spectrum of identities. It's about acknowledging and valuing everyone's experiences and identities. If that “goes against your values” then you’re most likely not going to enjoy your time here.

 

'Person-First Language' vs 'Identity-First Language'

'Person-first language' is a way of discussing individuals that supposedly highlights their humanity and uniqueness before mentioning any disabilities or characteristics. It would be like instead of saying “an Autistic” you’d say "person with Autism." People who use Person-First Language want to acknowledge the person beyond their disability, so they feel this approach promotes respectful communication. Personally, I’m not sure how they are highlighting anything about me by simply saying the words 'person with' but ok.

 

Conversely, ‘Identity-first language' is the approach I use when describing individuals. This is where the emphasis is placed on a specific identity or characteristic first, such as Autism, by mentioning it before the person's name or identity. "Autistic person" is an example of identity-first language, which many individuals and communities prefer, since it underscores the importance of their identity in their experiences and self-identification. To me it's not that deep, it's just easier to say and the first one feels like annoying virtue-signaling.

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In my opinion, a lot of times people who militantly police the language of marginalized folks are not doing anything else that is objectively helpful to the folks they think they are standing up for by rigidly demanding ‘Person-First Language’. If anything further stigmatizes us, but this is a tangent for another time. I will always respect what YOU want to be called. Labels and language are deeply personal and I believe in respecting people’s rights to be spoken to in a way that makes them feel safe and comfortable. If saying ‘primary bedroom’ or ‘person who menstruates’ achieves that, it’s good with me. Given my background, age, and how much of a late-bloomer I am on this stuff, I might have my own opinions about less common things like neopronouns but I will still respect anyone’s good-faith wishes for their own identities.

 

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Creativity

I consider myself an artist, but one who believes we should use the tools and accommodations available to us. I am aware it is controversial in the art world, but I am not opposed to AI Art. I put my heart and soul into my projects and consider art a deep passion of mine. AI Art actually got me back into art after neglecting it for years because of shit mental health, and now art is one of my main forms of self-care, personal growth, and activism. It has helped me grow exponentially since it acts the way an outline works for writers. I see it as a helpful tool since I lack a mind’s eye. I do not have an internal monologue and I cannot see images in my mind, so my creative ideas are more of an instinctual thing. That is sometimes hard to bring to life especially when I am dealing with other manifestations of my neurodivergence. I would see it as a tragedy for the world to be deprived of art because it is stuck inside someone’s mind. So AI often helps me get the ‘vision’ I have for a project outlined. This means that for complex ideas I have really benefitted from the accommodation of AI because it helps me be able to see a rough idea of what I want to do. I understand all the ethical complexities with AI Art and that isn’t the focus of my blog but transparency is extremely important to me. When it comes to the artwork on my blog, I will always be transparent about if it is AI-based, or my original art, or if it has come from some other source.

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